Good morning from New York City. It’s only 8:30 am and I’ve already had multiple exchanges with interesting people about what’s going on in their lives. What’s coming up for me this morning is this thing I say a lot… I’m renegotiating my relationship with ….and I use it with everything from I’m renegotiating my relationship with exercise to I’m renegotiating my relationship with time and how I manage myself to I’m renegotiating my relationship with New York City. I don’t have any idea where I came up with that, but if you’ve followed Dear Constance for any amount of time, you hear me talk a lot on the show about reframing, questioning assumptions, paying attention to the stories I tell myself.

In the past 24 hours, I’ve heard two different stories about people’s job situations. One is a woman whose identity is very much around being an entrepreneur. She’s had multiple different businesses and her identity is very tied into being an entrepreneur. She announced on a call that she had taken a job. She’s been struggling for with her business – it’s not doing very well and she really doesn’t like the business itself. When someone on the call said why don’t you take a part-time job, her initial reaction was negative. When she was able to let that land and to reflect and question the story she was telling herself, she found a great part-time job that turned in to a full-time gig. It’s solving a lot of immediate matters in her life.

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