Ep 61 Tend Your Own Garden

May 22, 2023

Good morning from New York City. This morning I’m pondering something that I say frequently of late. I notice when I say it people always go “Oh, I like that line. I have to remember that.” It’s tend your own garden. I don’t say that as a command. I usually give it in context.

When I tell this story about separating from a past love relationship, I talk about the fact that I felt like he wasn’t tending his garden. I also say that I am choosing to spend less time and energy around people who I feel are not tending their garden. It can sound very judgmental, but what I mean by it is this. I think what we used to say is taking care of your side of the street or something to that effect. I’m not sure what the exact expression is. I think we all know what it feels like to be around people that are always complaining – or something bad is always happening to them, or we can clearly see that they’re not doing the thing that they need to be doing – and yes, it can sound a little bit judgmental. But the truth of the matter is it is our judgment call when it comes to how we spend our time and who we spend time with, right?

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