Good morning from New York City. What’s on my mind this morning is second guessing, or more specifically not second guessing ourselves. Actually, I should probably rephrase that as trusting your instincts. Here’s why. On Monday I did an episode on forgiveness. I had recorded it some days earlier because I was traveling to a wedding and I was away for a long weekend. So first thing Monday morning, I got up to make sure that had been published properly and I listened to the episode. I thought to myself, ah, I could have done much better. And then I received a beautiful message from one of the Dear Constance listeners – my friend Charlotte -who wrote something like, Oh my gosh, you’re so right, you’re so right. And then she thanked me and said, “You’re giving a gift to all of us”.

Her message made me cry because it’s so hard for me not to second guess myself. I think I’ve said many times before here, I speak 100% extemporaneously. Every time I try to take notes or write a couple bullet points for myself, I fall flat. I just can’t get the episode out. For some unknown reason, I’m being tasked right now in my life with trusting my voice and trusting that what comes through is something that someone somewhere needs to hear. and I’m being forced to trust that good enough is good. Every time I try to re-record something, it doesn’t work. I simply need to trust what comes through.

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