Episode 125 We Ask Questions – Waq #4

October 18, 2023

Good morning from Mexico City. It’s Wednesday, and on Wednesdays we ask questions. Today’s question segment is inspired by something I stumbled upon on Instagram. . It was a snippet of Trevor Noah interviewing Oprah and he asked her this? What would you say is the one common characteristic you find that gets people to where they want to go? She gave a powerful response. Now this is a woman that has interviewed thousands and thousands of people, so of course when you ask her a question like that, you usually get a great wisdom bomb.

Her response was this: people get to where they want to go because they know where they want to go. Most people, a lot of people, are being driven by what they think they should do, what other people say they should do, what they’ve carried in their mind for a long time. But the most important question you can ever ask yourself is this, what do I really want? What do I really want? , Oprah went on to say, once you have established that for yourself, you have everything you do, every choice you make, move you in the direction of what you say your vision is. When you do that, the forces of life rise up to meet you.

Interestingly, I had already asked that question in a past episode. It was episode 22, and I was referencing ‘The Coaching Habit’ by the author, Michael Stenier. I thought it worth repeating the other questions that I found in his book, which are very much related to this question what do you want? But I want to open a parenthesis and say what do you want is a question that we have to come back to over and over again. . It’s something that changes.

Here are the other questions that Michael asked in his book that I think are interesting. Are you saying yes when you really mean to say no? And if you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to? I like that because it relates to what Oprah said. She’s talking about the fact that when you know what you want, your choices and the decisions you make should be taking you in that direction. So the question, if you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to, is a great one.

What do I really want? I’m glad that this popped in as the question for today because it relates to episode 118 that I called Start Finishing. In that episode I’m talking about the fact that it’s time to get things off your list for 2023 that you never got to – that apparently weren’t important – and to start finishing those things that are important so you can end the year on a high note.

Getting things off your list that you’re not getting to – it’s sort of a way of making space energetically for what is to become and what you want to make of 2024. So I’ll close today by asking again that core question: what do you want?  That’s all for now Until next time from my heart to yours.

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